If you consistently find yourself in dead end relationships with guys that you thought were worth you’re time, you need to read in between the lines. It’s not always your fault, you know. On the surface he presents himself as interested, caring, and satisfied with your relationship. So, why hasn’t it moved to the next level?
If any of the following characteristics sound like you’re guy… beware.
He doesn’t take you out
This has nothing to do with the cash factor. Well, sometimes it does. But if a guy is reducing your dates to house hang outs or he won’t take you to major hot spots, it’s a major red flag. It could be for a number of reasons, but the most prevalent thing that comes to mind is that he wants to keep you away from places where you’ll run into his friends, or ahem, his wife.
It’s all about sex
If your relationship is mostly spent in the bedroom, start looking for something new. Sure, sexual chemistry is great, but if you only view he’s treating you to is his mirrored closet, you’ve got problems. Try a test. Suggest a date that takes you out of his neighborhood, or has you trying something new. If he declines you or always has an excuse, you can rest assured that you’re his number one booty call. End that relationship now.
He’s all play
This is a tricky one. On one hand you could be dating a responsible career man that has his own place and treats you constantly. On the other hand you could be dating a responsible career guy who treats you constantly but gets so wasted on most weekends that you end up alone on Sunday afternoon while he sleeps it off. Irresponsibility comes in all forms, so don’t be fooled by his credit and bank account. If you’re dating a little boy, don’t expect he’ll be growing up on your watch. Move on.
You can flirt—all the time
If you’re at a club and a guy grabs you, and your date doesn’t care. He really doesn’t care. Men are possessive of their “things”. Let’s get it straight, you’re not his property. But a man wants to believe you are. If he cares for you, he’ll have a physical and emotional reaction to you flirting with another man. If he doesn’t, he doesn’t have the kinds of feelings for you that are going to take you into a long term relationship. Move along.
You haven’t met his friends
A man’s friends are very important to him. After a period of time he’s going to introduce you to his friends. Or is he? If you’ve been dating someone for a long time and you haven’t met his friends, then you’re not going to be long-term wife material. If he was proud of you, and he saw long term potential, you’d have met his friends by now. Ask him why you haven’t met them yet. If he can’t give you a good reason, you might have a reason to be worried.